Building Your Self Esteem
If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions,
and poor self esteem, you will never be able to break past how
you see yourself and think that others see you.
Consider the goal of becoming a more charismatic person. Your
self development goals include becoming a better person. You
cannot hold that in your mind clearly while you still play the
movie in your head that you are of less value than others.
We are all going to have our good points and points that are
not so good. But it all averages out!
So what to do if you harbor bad feelings about yourself, what
you can do and accomplish?
Keep in mind, in order to feel good about yourself, and build
self esteem, you have to create and maintain harmony between
your thoughts and actions, both when alone and when in the company
of others.
Your thoughts precede the action you perform in the outside
world. So how do you get along better with people and build
your self esteem?
Try to forgive yourself and others more, because nobody is
perfect and everybody makes mistakes. Accept the errors that
people around you commit, but don't forget about your own mistakes.
Remember that it takes a very strong person to have the power
to admit having done something wrong and even if, at the beginning,
the others might blame you, after a while, they will usually
appreciate your honesty in rectifying the situation when possible.
Scientists confirm that human beings are happier and feel
more accomplished and fulfilled when living in society, surrounded
by other people. Don't isolate yourself.
So don't be afraid to make more friends. Remember that people
are seen as charismatic because they listening more to other
people's problems, stop being self centered and offer help, when
given the opportunity. The feeling of being useful to the others,
will result into a feeling of more self esteem.
Everyday life gives you plenty of reasons to be angry and
affected by stress, so keep in mind that defeating these feelings,
canceling them with more positive thoughts and actions, will
make you a stronger more likeable person.
Building self esteem is often a matter of getting beyond yourself
and seeing the possibilities in yourself and others.
Next, Learn how to develop
Self Confidence, Personal Power and Charisma. Article by
Jeannie Crabtree C.Ac.
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