How To Develop Charisma Is Personalized
To be all that you can be may be a challenge. Some people question how to develop Charisma, that you either have it or you do not. Once you find out that many who portrays this personality style did not start out that way, then you can say to yourself “If they can do it, I can too.
But your style may look different than someone else’s. After all, you are you, not someone else. Be all you can be, without being fake or manipulating.
Ask yourself guiding questions along the way to be your personal best. Be honest, you have no one to judge your answers but yourself.
What does Charisma mean to me?
If you don’t define charisma and personal magnetism, how can you develop it? By defining it, you can set goals to achieve it.
What do I really want?
Once you have a definition, you may find that what you really want is to be a better conversationalist, better liked, or have more self-confidence. Nothing wrong with that. Just weave that into your goals – what you want and what it looks like to you.
What is it that motivates me?
Are you doing it for self-growth? Are you doing it to attract someone that you think won’t be attracted to the “real you”? I see this in the dating scene – people acting out in ways they really are not just in the hopes of getting into a relationship. You need to be honest with yourself and others.
Should I change?
If you are not an outgoing person, staying that way is a choice. Everything we do or do not do in life has payoffs. You have to make the payoff of change big, bright and bold in your mind and keep it that way so that it is worth the change it will take. It has to be better than what you all ready have in order for you to work towards it.
Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?
Is it comfortable to make changes? Usually not. Growth and challenging yourself is good. But if your conscience bothers you then look at what you are doing. Charisma is not about manipulating people or being fake. It is about being the best you can be and respecting others at the same time.
Am I taking care of myself enough?
Personal magnetism and charisma often focuses on doing for others and being a leader. Don’t over commit and leave yourself without the time to do the things you need for yourself.
Am I happy doing this?
If you love being the center of attention and everyone’s focus, then continue. If you find that you are not, then decide what to continue in the way of self-improvement and when to say “That’s not for me”. As you develop charisma in a way that attracts others, there is nothing wrong with taking it back down a notch or taking a breather.
You can be just about anything you want, however there are times when you realize it is not the real you.
When that happens, just go back to defining what you want and what that means for you. This keeps you on track of how to develop Charisma and personal magnetism. Enjoy your self-improvement journey.